Who Am I Besides A Mother?
I am so serious.
Who am I besides a mother?
I was obviously a whole person before I had children, so why does it feel like that person did not exist?
It is as if becoming a mom started a new life for me and I left my previous life behind.
Like it did not matter anymore.
All that mattered was those little eyes staring up at me. Needing me.
My daughter needs me.
And the reason she does is because I’m mom.
I’m the one who carried her in my tummy for 9 months.
I’m the voice she heard from within and whose scent she instantly recognized from birth.
And I’m the one who nursed and fed her when she was hungry and soothed her when she was crying.
I’m her everything.
And I took that role on in its entirety and becoming a mom had become all that I was.
So it brings up the question posed at the beginning once again.
Who am I besides a mother?
Well for starters, I am a wife.
A wife with a husband who loves that I am a great mom, but also needs me to be a wife at times.
I’m a daughter.
With a mom who gave birth to me and probably can relate to exactly what I’m feeling.
She knows what it is like to carry a child for 9 months and feel love at first sight.
My dad and mom did everything they could for us in order to make sure we were always good and never struggled.
Which inspires me to want to do the same for my daughter.
I’m a sister.
And my sister was very first best friend and still is to this day.
She is familiar with the person that I was before I became a mom and can remind me when I’m feeling lost.
After all, she has particularly known me the majority of my life.
And lastly, I’m a friend.
And probably a crappy friend at that because I don’t reach out as much as I should.
When you have a family, it is not that you don’t reach out, it is because you are just busy with your family.
You figure out who your real friends are once you are married and have children because they understand that and don’t hold it against you.
These are the friends that don’t skip a beat and will continue to show up for you.
So as I have gone down the list from above, I have realized that I am more than just a mom.
I just caught up within one role of myself.
Don’t feel bad if this is you as well because this seems to be something that is fairly common with new moms.
We all want to be the best moms we can be to our little ones, but we have to remember that there is more to us than just being a mom.
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I will catch you all next time!
Love,
Just Jass