I’m My Own Worst Critic…
It’s true.
I’m super hard on myself.
And I think the worst of myself at times.
I will even go as far as to tell myself that I’m not doing enough as a mother.
Not doing enough as a wife.
Not doing enough to be a good friend.
When I really think about it, if somebody were to talk to me like I do to myself, I wouldn’t stand for it.
So why do I talk to myself so badly?
Why would I tell myself that I’m not pretty?
Or that I can’t do something.
Or even that I am not worth taking a chance on.
I know I am not the only person who does this.
This inner dialogue that I have with myself can be really toxic and can put me in a bad mood.
And this mood can last for days if I allow it.
As I have learned, there is actually a term that people like to call this way of thinking.
It’s called negative self-talk.
We probably all engage in some form of negative self-talk in one way or another.
It’s that little voice in our heads that likes to tell us that we are not capable of achieving something.
It makes us feel like something is too big or too much to handle.
This mindset often holds up many of us and will be the reason we won’t pursue certain endeavors.
So in our gut, we can know that we are perfect for a certain task.
But that little voice will tell us otherwise and sometimes it wins that inner battle.
If you want a really good metaphor of what I mean, it’s like the little devil sitting on your shoulder whispering in your ear all those bad things about yourself.
But with the devil being present on one shoulder, the angel has to be present on the other shoulder.
When you have been listening to the negative voice for so long, it is easy to forget that the angel is there to tell you all the good things about yourself.
And good things about yourself do exist.
These are your strengths that make you a great friend.
Someone who people love to be around.
And someone who deserves to be treated with kindness and love.
If you are unsure of what your strengths are, ask those who closest to you.
These are the people who want to be around you and root for you.
It is something about you that keeps them around.
Ask them.
We get so caught up in own negativity and believe these things about ourselves when in reality, they may not even be true.
Especially if we express thing about ourselves to others and they say it is not true.
We have to learn to tune out that negative tune humming around our head and start listening to a more positive one.
If you are looking for some tips on how to find that positive tune, then check out this post below on how to take back control with the use of positive self-talk, so you can starting feeling more positive about yourself today!
You deserve it.
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Until next time!
Love,
Just Jass