I Did Not Plan To Be A Stay At Home Mom

Love, Just Jass
3 min readOct 9, 2020

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So I was not sure what to expect.

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When I became a stay at home mom 2 years ago after my daughter was born, me and my husband had just the made the decision a couple of months prior to her birth that I would remain home with our daughter her for the time being.

I had no idea what being a stay at home mom really meant.

I thought to myself that I could be home with our daughter for a few months and then I will consider going back to work.

A few months turned into 6 months.

6 months turned into a year.

And now a year has turned into 2 years.

And it is looking like I will remain a stay at home mom until our daughter goes to preschool in the next year or two.

I did not plan on being a stay at home mom this long, but somehow I still am.

And I got to say it was not pretty at first.

I was failing miserable as a stay at home mom.

The only thing that I was good at was keeping our daughter alive.

As for myself, now that was a different story.

I was barely hanging on by a thread and felt like I was drowning in dirty diapers and bibs.

I only have one child, but I could not help but think of the Instagram and YouTube moms who were killing at mom life with multiple children and here I was barely able to keep up with just one.

If you have never stayed home with a young child or children, then I don’t think there is really a way to explain what it is like.

You have to live it to know what I mean by there is a way to not get a single thing done the whole day with children present.

You are lucky to even make it out of your pajamas from the night before.

Babies and toddlers are needy.

They need you throughout the entire the day to feed, cloth, change, and rock to sleep.

I’m not saying this to complain, but it is the truth.

I made the decision to breastfeed my daughter as well, so it felt like my daughter was stuck on me 24/7.

Breastfeeding was also something new for me as a new mom

Being a stay at home mom is not for the weak-minded, that’s for sure.

You trade in everything for one title.

Mom.

And becoming a mom literally triumphed everything for me.

It was like the person I was before I became a mom was some person from the past.

I knew that I needed to find that person again.

And it was going to start with finding her within this new role of being a stay at home mom.

In order for me to start being more successful as a stay at home mom, I knew I had start treating what I was doing as a job.

And with any job, I need to prepare myself for the task at hand.

That task being motherhood.

If you are looking for some more tips on how to start thriving as a stay at home mom, then check out this post below.

It provides several tips on how to start thriving instead of just surviving in mom life.

Because trust me.

There is a difference.

Read More: Start Thriving As A Stay At Home Mom

Until next time!

Love,

Just Jass

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Love, Just Jass

Here to make you “just” feel good through my experiences with mom-life, positive mental health habits, and self-development tips.