I Am DONE Feeling Guilty As A Mom

Love, Just Jass
3 min readMar 18, 2021

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That’s right.

Photo by Jeffery Erhunse on Unsplash

I am done feeling guilty as a mom.

My daughter is well taken care of and happy, so why in the world do I feel guilty as a mom?

Could I be doing more? Sure. Everyone can do more than what they are doing, but if that “more” turns into something that is more detrimental to your mental health, then that more doesn’t sound worth it.

And that was exactly what was happening to me.

As a stay at home mom, I thought that I should be doing everything. Cooking. Cleaning. Teaching. Not only that, I felt pressured to cook healthy meals 3 times a day and 7 days a week. I felt like I had to have a spotless home at all times. And I felt like my daugther couldn’t have an ounce of screen time because screen time can’t be educational.

This is clearly unrealistic, but for some reason, I felt so much guilt if these things weren’t happening.

I was driving myself crazy until one day I said enough is enough.

It was time to ditch the mom guilt.

No more feeling guilty for if my daughter winds up having chicken nuggets and mac and cheese for dinner a night or two out of the week.

No more feeling guilty for if that laundry has sat there for 2 days too many.

And no more feeling guilty for if my daughter winds up having a little more screen time than anticipated.

Like I said, she is happy and well take care of and that is all that matters.

I get to keep my sanity and when I have my sanity, I am a much better person which in turns makes me a better mom.

That is always the goal.

To be a better mom is what we all strive for in motherhood and the only way we can do that is by relieving ourselves of any guilt that we may be carrying.

Our young children won’t remember every meal they had or whether not their home was spotless and sparkly clean.

I mean think about it. Do you remember every little thing your parents were doing before 5 years old? Probably not.

But, they will remember how they felt.

A lot of us will refer to our emotions and feelings that we felt as a kid growing up.

For instance, I had a happy childhood. I remember my parents being present and doing things that put would put a smile on face.

In fact, one of my fondest childhood memories is of my dad taking me and younger sister to Burger King on Friday nights.

This didn’t involve any healthy, homecooked meal or some expensive educational tool. Just good ole chicken nuggets and an indoor playground.

Making memories and creating new traditions is what really counts and if you are too caught up in feeling guilty, then you will miss out those moments.

So here’s to getting rid of the guilt and being present within the moment.

If you are looking for more ways to ditch the mom guilt, check out this post below where I dive into some affirmations that we could all benefit from.

Read More: It’s Time To Ditch The Mom Guilt For Good

Until next time!

Love,

Just Jass

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Love, Just Jass

Here to make you “just” feel good through my experiences with mom-life, positive mental health habits, and self-development tips.